BloodSport? Are you telling me that trying to meet and seduce women really all that dire? Isn’t the grand game of wooing women supposed to be a light-hearted adventure taken on with playful humour and an air of restless good spirit?

Sure... but only if you don’t suffer from Severe Rejection Hyper-Sensitivity like I used to. SRHS is a life-damaging psychological millstone around your neck which I had the sheer luck to discover has a very concrete underpinning in the way that you were treated by your primary caretakers (parents) as an adolescent. 

Look, if you can suffer all the various “kicks to the teeth” that this maddening game of approaching and seducing women often creates -- and just let it all slide off your back like water from a duck -- then you might as well stop reading right now.  This article  isn’t for you.  You can probably make some headway with women here and there, now and again. Without Embarrassment is for the guy who is stopped dead in his tracks by the thought of having his advances rejected... who stands helpless at the moment of opportunity when a beautiful, available girl is nearby with his feet rooted to the floor in anxiety... his mouth paralysed to utter a single word or his body produce a stray movement that might be judged ridiculous or somehow diminishing -- whose mind has gone white-hot blank in a haze of staggering fear.

You and I are kindred spirits.  I’ll bet you’ve been to the place that I just described.  Maybe you’ve lived there all your life.  I know the agony of this kind of self-imposed isolation, and the frustration of trying to overcome it, or even just understand it.  The key to freedom, as you will soon see, is knowledge.

Face it, on a most fundamental level, the reason why you are afraid to open your mouth and say something to a woman in a social situation is that you simply don’t know exactly what to say.  You understand that you have to say something that deviates from the ordinary run-of-the-mill type of small talk BS that we all engage in with friends and co-workers... but what? You know that the basis for seduction is speech -- that you have to talk to a woman in a certain precise sort of way in order to get her to feel or reciprocate some kind of attraction towards you, but just what are these magic words?