I'm 5'6", un athletic, and have a nasty lisp to my voice. Women find me unattractive and unacceptable as a potential mate. They laugh at guys like me...

This is basically how I thought about myself for years -- from adolescence to adulthood --in the deepest core of my being. I’m talking about my unconscious mind, where fundamental statements such as these which describe your sense of identity (or at least, certain aspects of it) are held un-critically as the truth, and are then used by your conscious mind to form the basis of a set of internal rules that guide all of your essential behaviours and reactions to other people.   Holding this specific sort of woe-is-me belief in the very core of your unconscious mind where it’s accepted as absolute truth is particularly life-damaging because it lays down the stench of the weak, rejected male all over you. Even before you've ever actually been rejected by the very first girl you may’ve approached in high school for a date or a dance, you’ve already been rejected. The first person to have already rejected you is YOU.  And boy, does it show

At all costs you must remove this stink of rejection from your being or women will smell it a mile away and happily join in on the social embargo which you yourself have already begun.

If there’s one concept that I’m going to pound relentlessly, it’s the notion of male dominant status. If this sounds like some S&M shit that you’d find in one of your sick Mr. SpankyTime porno videos, I assure you it isn’t.  I never fully understood just how absolutely monumental the whole male dominant status thing was to women when it comes to the process they use in their minds to sort out men.  With surprising speed, women will categorize men into three distinct groups:

A. men from whom they would accept romantic overtures, and ultimately consider falling in love with, or at least fucking...

B. men who, no matter what, could never be regarded as anything more than mere friends, and...

C. men who completely repulse them for some reason (physical, social, character factor, biological, etc.) and whom they feel they must stay away from at all costs.

The key issue here is speed... women can make this judgement about your romantic potential in a highly temperamental, almost capricious way.  They seem to know within mere moments of meeting you which “pile” you belong in.  That’s why it’s essential that you immediately make the correct first impression or you are forever banished to non-romantic “Friendsland” where you simply cannot recover.  Okay, sometimes you can recover, but it takes a Herculean effort.  Why not learn to do things right the first time and save yourself the hassle of always trying to heal a blown opportunity?  As you will discover, this notion of having to always remain light on your feet in an emotional-intellectual sense cannot be over-emphasized.

One of the worse ways to act around women is in a way that attempts to make them feel sorry for you so that they’ll take you home and nurture your poor lonely little self back to emotional health with love and kisses and lots of wonderful, exhausting sex.