Men typically don’t act this way around women rock stars because their status as successful performers is not impressive to men.  In fact, female fame and success can be downright intimidating.  Only the physical attractiveness and sex appeal of females is enticing to the male.  This points out in crystal clear fashion something that you will come to understand about women: Women are not impressed with male appearance (so long as you maintain good hygiene and style) nearly as much as they are impressed with your perceived status. Therefore, one of your primary goals in moving up the ladder from loser to chooser is to be viewed by the women around you as a “player”.  All sorts of good things will begin to fall your way once you establish this impression of yourself in their minds. Did you ever wonder why none of your female friends ever fix you up with their cute cousins when they’re available?  Probably because they don’t see you as being a player. You’ve got to work on changing that perception of yourself if you would like to see a galaxy of romantic opportunities open up in your life.

You see, one of the strange, inverted rules of life (that people who complain they never get a break don’t seem to grasp) is that the universe will always strive to help people who try to help themselves.  When people sense that you are genuinely struggling with some kind of problem in your life, they will come out of the woodwork with all sorts of offers to lend a hand.  “The Lord Helps Those that Help Themselves” goes the old saying, and the truth of this wisdom extends to all areas of life, not just the subject of this book.  Once your friends and associates get the notion that you’re a player and working the dating field aggressively, you suddenly become “thought of” in that sense when people are considering hook-ups for their single friends, or women spread the word of your availability along through the female gossip grapevine.  Now you become the centre of attention whenever opportunities present themselves!

In order to reach this high point in your social development, you’re going to have to bootstrap yourself up from shy loner to “Mr. Popular” and you’ll have only yourself to rely on in the beginning.  Your task is to practice what you learn in a step-by-step fashion and just try to keep making steady progress as you study the techniques in this book. At some point when you least expect it, people will come to see that you have become “for real”, and they will quite suddenly throw their weight behind your cause.  You must have faith that the process will gain momentum and take on a life of its own after a while.

This was actually one of the most pleasant of surprises of my own personal transformation when I finally got wise to the ways of flirting and seduction, and I’m sure that it will be one of yours too.