You know how those guys with all great looks have it pretty easy in life when it comes to dating with women. But not having great looks can also be an advantage too. Huh? Once again, the critical element is attitude and how you handle your perceived physical imperfections.  Guys who aren’t anything special to look at often carry around a kind of “woe-is-me” hang dog attitude about themselves when it comes to flirting with women.  And because this attitude is so pervasive, women have for the most part come to expect it.  You’ll see that boldness in taking the initiative to open a dialog and make first contact is viewed by most women as an unmistakable sign of high male status.  Of course, I’m not talking about being a super-pushy asshole or something that suggests a disconnect with reality, but the simple willingness to accept your role in the social convention that dictates men take the opening risk in a man/woman meeting opportunity is a big turn-on to them.  This kind of risk is not expected from a man who doesn’t have lady killer looks.  This particular “element of surprise” is something that no good looking guy can possess, and that gives us a weapon he can never have.

Again, the precise details of making a classy, successful approach will be hammered out for you later, but I just wanted you to understand how stepping out of character can work heavily in your advantage.  Women think they know pretty much how guys will act based on their appearance and dress, so they find it pleasantly confusing to encounter a guy who acts out of character by displaying dominant male behaviour (boldness) despite the fact that he doesn’t look the ‘hot guy’ part.  When a good-looking dude is in the area, women sense his presence and have their guard up for a possible approach by him -- thinking that the stud’s been emboldened by his previous successes with women.  But they don’t expect it from an “ordinary” guy and that leaves them open to our sneak attack of seduction!  Women do grade status ahead of looks per se, and to encounter a man who signals high status “out of character” intrigues them tremendously.

I’m sure you know that a lot of great looking women end up with guys whose physical looks leave you scratching your head wondering what the hell’s going on (he must have a massive tool you think to yourself, wrongly).  Hey, if he did have a king-sized wang, just how did she know this at first glance?  Did he whip it out and show it to her at the supermarket? No, he used his lack of looks in conjunction with behaviours that were more likely to be exhibited by someone with a lot of wealth and/or power to stun her during their initial encounter. Remember, no one can possibly know yourself as good as you... so your own self assessment – as projected by and communicated to others by your critical first actions – must be taken at its face value by someone else... at least until they get to know you better and can begin to form their own judgements about you. So get ready to set your phazer on STUN whenever she pops up.

The combination of your being comfortable with yourself “flaws and all” along with knowing the proper things to say on a first encounter, can be an awesome weapon that you carry around with you always ready to use on a moment’s notice.

So the next time you see that unsightly lug staring back at you in the mirror... smile. He’s a stealthy Don Juan!